The "Ideal Man" vs Reality

Last week I was talking to one of my close friends about the "ideal" man. Would you want to be with someone who has the $$$$$$$ or just someone you could connect with on a deep level that most likely can only support himself or not even...?

So really..
Money or love?

For now, yeah I'd definitely choose love, but 5 years down the line? I have to have both. Well, not in a sense that he has to be super rich or anything, just someone that could make me feel secure everyday of my life. By security I mean

• Having someone who will stick by me no matter what happens
• Knowing that I'll never go broke

SO CAN I PLEASE JUST HAVE BOTH??? :D

bwahahaha I'm so greedy...

"Love doesn't feed you"

I honestly would not want to be with someone I love AND broke ok haha. I don't think there is anyone out there that wants that! But iono... I can't imagine living with someone I wasn't into... could you???

Life isn't a Korean drama where the guy is rich, attractive, AND can connect with you on a deep level ok. That totally does not exist. And if it does...well sorry, I still don't believe that exist HAHA.

PROS with a marrying rich dude:

1. You'll always be well dressed
2. You get to travel around a lot
3. You can eat anything you want. GREAT FOOD EVERYDAY...
4. You can buy everything you want
5. You can live comfortably with no worries (except if he cheats on you)

CONS with a marrying rich dude:

1. marrying for money is definitely a lonely road down the line
2. you just cannot connect emotionally
3. you'll actually feel super empty inside

PROS with marrying for love that doesn't have money to support you:

1. You can connect with that him emotionally
2. You'd be emotionally happy (unless he cheats on you or together you're broke)
3. He's mostly your best friend
4. He would work with you through every situation as a team member
5. He would actually support you

CONS with marrying for love that doesn't have money to support you:

1. You can't eat/buy everything you want
2. You most likely will not travel LOL (having your parents sponsor you will be faster)
3. I can only imagine the possibilities of arguments over money. Finance is one of the top ten reasons people divorce. If you keep fighting, then your relationship just goes downhill and love won't be keeping you guys together :(

I can't believe I'm sharing my thoughts on this hahaha
but anyway, enough about that.

Here is a long ass list of my standards...

The "Ideal Man"  can't a girl have dreams that actually come true once in a while? x]

• Definitely not broke LOL, but he doesn't need to have all the money in the world either. 
• A man who would spend quality time with me. It's not quality time just because you're there, but it's quality time when you actually do something together
• someone spontaneous ! I absolutely hate the same routine everyday. It's really boring
• A man who communicates. Talk about anything and everything
• A man making plans. Who doesn't find it attractive when a man makes plans??? Doesn't have to be a big plan you know.
• A man who makes delicious meals weekly and plays the cello for me with that nice vibrato(AKA LUKA SULIC) xD
• A man who loves the same things as I do.
• A man who does not make me wait. ALWAYS ON TIME. I absolutely hate waiting ok... Patience is a virtue...MY ASS! I'm constantly in a rush and stressed. Don't have time for that!
• A man who is patient with me, patient in general, understands me, can really take my crap LOL
• A man who doesn't stress because I am ALWAYS STRESSED. Not good to have 2 stressed people you know..
• Logical
• Just someone who is really sweet to me ok, but not like talk to me using "baby, sweetie, etc" bleh gross! 
• Has to be tall. Tall enough so when I wear 4-5 inch heels, he is still taller than me.
• He can't be so skinny that I feel fat walking in public with him. It's embarrassing >.<
• He has to be funny and it is definitely ok if his jokes are pretty cold (erm its a term people who speak Mandarin use)

Ok, now to REALITY
I don't know why, but it is super difficult for me to talk to my boyfriend about why I'm upset. I don't get it, but I'm trying. It's just I have this long ass list for the ideal man and I keep expecting that he would do all those things. But really, to be happy, I need to be able to speak what's on my mind or else I'll never be happy. It'll always be my fault I feel a certain way because I'm the only one feeling that way. Does that make sense? But I just wish he would plan something sometimes and not just sit around at home like yesterday. Yeah...yesterday I got pretty upset. He works Monday through Saturday, but Saturday he had a wedding gig so I didn't get to spend time with him until later the evening. But even till later in the evening, after we went to a professor's recital, we just stayed home and watched a movie. Not saying that I don't like that, but we do that almost every day. Sunday when he had his time off, he just slept in all the way till like 2... I wanted Ramen a lot, but ramen places always close at 2:30 latest. btw: I get in a really bad mood when I'm hungry. So by the time he is up and ready to go, guess what...ramen places are closed. The only ramen place that was opened was at Mitsuwa CASH ONLY and he didn't want to spend cash. Ok now I was like extremely pissed off cohz I was SUPER HUNGRY...AND WAITING... He asked me what I wanted to eat so I gave a list of what I wanna eat as an alternative. Sushi boy was not one of them...but we ended up there -__- ok we get home, again the tv turns on, and after we finish eating, he goes straight to bed. well it's Sunday and I finally get to spend time with you...

????????????

He is just waaaay to comfortable (I think) or  else he wouldn't act this way. It's a good and bad thing you know! I swear, if I didn't ask him to get his lazy ass out of the house yesterday, he would've just slept through the entire day or just checked on his current Amiibo addiction updates. But I'm really glad he got up to go explore the other side of Quail Hill with me and the boys.

Damn those skinny legs. I want...

Wow this is the longest post I've ever done... what a waste of my time LOL. I should be working on my paper due this week...